February 2, 2013 by fifi + hop
Between the various blogs and websites – ours, Wee Westchester, Brooklyn or Beyond, and A Child Grows – I’ve been loving all the debate and impassioned feelings regarding the Westchester vs. Brooklyn subject matter. That’s after all what our blog is all about – the pros and cons to both lifestyles, and trying to figure out what we want and where we want to live (though obviously in the fury of debate, the posts have leaned more one way or the other – but hey, one’s got to defend! And have some “friendly” battling it out).
As someone who just moved to Westchester after 5 years in Brooklyn, I see both sides, and still think there are “pros and cons” to both lifestyles. For a lot of people moving out of the city it is a complicated decision to make, and that’s one of the reasons why this blog was started, along with sharing our experiences along the way. I can’t tell you how many people have said “what a great idea, because I have this conversation all the time – we don’t know what to do. Do we stay or do we go?” I always say it was Colleen’s idea, and she asked me to join – and I happily signed on because it’s something I had been thinking about (and continue to) for a long time now. I’ve been following the blog and list serve Brooklyn or Beyond for a few years now. Not only for the good resources and info. it provides, but to see how people have made out in their new moves – because, frankly, moving to the burbs from the city is kind of scary! And I grew up in the suburbs, 20 minutes from where I live now! But that was a long time ago. The city and the suburbs are two completely different lifestyles, at least in the NYC area, and there’s no question for many there’s a period of serious adjustment.
I’ve talked to some people here in Larchmont who have said that they were in total shell shock when they first moved, or some who said that they hated it at first and then a year later came to love it, and now would never move anywhere else. And Larchmont is about as close to the city as you’re going to get, with somewhat of an urban feel, so I’ve found these stories to be very telling as to how hard the adjustment can be. Of course there are many factors in why a town may or may not work out for someone, but you get the jist. I personally feel in total limbo right now because we don’t really know what’s going to happen to us and whether this is a right match or not. I know that we’re not moving back to the city, so at least I have that figured out, but it’s hard to say what will happen down the road. I wish I had that “I’m in love with where I live” feeling, but I don’t, at least not yet. I like this town just fine, and there’s things about it I do love and think in a lot of ways it’s the perfect transitional place, but overall there is still a vague, lingering question mark. I will save my reservations for another post, and hopefully as time goes on this will change.
I guess what I am trying to say is that here we are, out of the city, which is a big hurdle in and of itself, and yet I am still dealing with the “what do we want” issue. I knew it was going to come to this, that’s after all why we’re renting (and I am also self -admittedly a complete and utter over-analyzer). I have a hunch we will probably in the end stay for a while, because the kids are happy and it’s a good commute, but we have a lot to figure out. Deciding where you want to put your roots down and raise your family is not an easy thing. For some people it’s a no-brainer and they know exactly where they want to be. But for those like me it is a much more complicated issue. And for that I’m loving all the debate going around because it just goes to show there are many different people with different desires and wants and needs, and what might work for one family doesn’t for another. There is no “right” way to live.